why you are always attracting the wrong kind of people?

It is important to know that your level of self-esteem affects who you will attract and select as your partner. Studies show that people tend to be in relationships with partners who share similar feelings about intimacy and companionship. Sadly, relations between two people with low self esteem rarely end well; they are usually shorter and less fulfilling.
Couples who suffer from low self-esteem in general have lower standards when it comes to love and happiness. Their relationships have less trust and more conflict and differences. They constantly put themselves and each other down and this can have a dramatic effect on their relationship.
It is difficult for people with low self-esteem to love themselves fully and their self-worth is usually dependent on each other’s opinions. When we depend on others for validation we become vulnerable and overly critical of ourselves. Alternatively, we cater to our partner and neglect our own needs and happiness because we feel we are unable to give or receive love and respect.
In most cases, low self-esteem is also associated with other issues such as anxiety and depression. In this situation people tend to be more pessimistic about themselves, their partner and their future. Basically, they will lose their abilities to open themselves to each other, express their feeling and share their experiences.
The good news is that enhancing your self esteem will improve your relationships. The first step to achieve higher self-esteem is to evaluate your present relationships. It is important to learn who makes you feel great about yourself and who puts you down. Explore your own interests; know where you stand on important values in life and surround yourself with people that share the same values as you. The second step is to control your thoughts and stop self criticizing. Pay attention to your feelings and replace criticism and negativities with positive thinking. Trust your intuition and become more assertive when making decisions particularly when choosing a partner or dating. Boosting your self-esteem is hard work, but once you view yourself as a confident person and perceive yourself as worthy your relationships will automatically improve.